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From Fearful to Fearless: Finding My Voice

Writer's picture: John MothersheadJohn Mothershead

In 2013, I attended the Writer’s Workshop in New York City, hosted by Hay House. This weekend seminar featured Gabrielle Bernstein and Reid Tracy, aiming to inspire writers and help them bring their creative visions to life. Among the few hundred attendees, one fortunate participant who submitted a book proposal would win a coveted Hay House writing contract. The stakes were high, and the energy in the room was palpable.


John Mothershead (noticably younger) and Gabrielle Bernstein smiling, John wearing a blue lanyard, Gabrielle in a pink top. Blurred blue background, bright and cheerful mood.
At the Hay House Writer's Workshop 2013 with Gabrielle Bernstein!

The truth is, even back then, I envisioned myself helping others. When I attended Hay House’s “I Can Do It” conference, I saw myself on that stage—speaking, motivating, and empowering the audience while sharing my book. The vision was crystal clear, and my enthusiasm was electric. But as much as I dreamed of stepping into that light, a profound sense of imposter syndrome held me back.


Fear whispered cruel questions: Who do you think you are? Memories of past embarrassments haunted me like my voice cracking during a middle school solo at the Christmas concert. The fear of judgment and failure overshadowed my enthusiasm, and I gave up. I left the Writer’s Workshop feeling inspired yet silent, paralyzed by self-doubt.


That same fear lingered for years, holding me back from publishing my children’s book and other projects I sincerely believed in but couldn’t bring myself to share with the world. Seventeen years after it was written, ten years after a failed crowdfunding campaign, and nine years after I abandoned the children's book, I finally committed to change.


Turning Point: PERSIST


In January 2024, I made a commitment to myself. My word for the year was "PERSIST"; part of achieving that goal involved revisiting unfinished projects, creating impactful work (even if it wasn’t perfect), and allowing myself to be vulnerable—even if it meant facing judgment.


Finally, I published my children’s book. Bringing it to life after years of hesitation reignited something in me. Completing the project became a powerful reminder that action—even imperfect action—is what moves us forward. With this renewed momentum, I again pursued my Hay House dreams. This time, I wasn’t going to let fear stop me. I finally submitted my book proposal.


Smiling man holding a certificate with "Honorable Mention" text. Wearing a navy sweater in a cozy room with blurred shelves in the background.
Proud recipient of the Hay House Authorpreneur Honorable Mention award, celebrating outstanding literary achievement.

A Decade Later: A Decision to Change


The result? My name was chosen as top of the class with an Honorable Mention. While I didn’t receive the $20,000 publishing contract, I left with invaluable feedback to enhance my work for the next submission. Then, at the end of the year, I earned another Honorable Mention for my second proposal. Closing out 2024 with that recognition felt like the perfect affirmation of the journey I’ve been on.


As I enter 2025, I’m working on my third proposal (the third time’s the charm, right?) and celebrating a dream come true: being featured on the Radleigh Valentine Show, the podcast of one of the greatest Hay House authors ever. The future remains uncertain, but I’ve already come further than I imagined—not by staying silent, but by stepping out and taking my shot.



The Lesson: Progress Over Perfection


If there’s one thing this journey has taught me, it’s this: You don’t have to wait until you feel ready. Readiness is a myth. What matters is showing up as you are, with all your imperfections, and taking that first courageous step. Each time I’ve faced my fear of judgment or imposter syndrome, I’ve grown stronger and more connected to my purpose.


I’ll be honest—the fear hasn’t gone away. But now, instead of allowing it to hold me back, I’ve learned to work alongside it. I’ve come to understand that fear often arises when we’re about to do something significant. It’s not a barrier; it’s a guidepost.


Tools to Overcome Fear and Step Into Your Light


If If you’ve been holding back due to fear, self-doubt, or perfectionism, here are some tools that have helped me and may help you too:


1. Start Before You’re Ready

Perfectionism will try to convince you to wait until everything is “perfect.” Don’t listen. Take imperfect action and trust that you’ll learn as you go.


2. Shift Your Mindset

Instead of viewing rejection or failure as an endpoint, see it as feedback. Each attempt brings you closer to your goal.


3. Use Affirmations

Affirm your worth and potential daily. One of my favorites is: “My voice matters, and my story is worthy of being shared.”


4. Find Your Cheerleaders

Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your vision. Their support can be the push you need when self-doubt creeps in.


5. Take Small Steps

Break your goal into smaller, manageable actions. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how small.


6. Reflect on Your Why

When fear arises, reconnect with your deeper purpose. Who could benefit from your message? What impact could your work have?


7. Trust the Process

Growth takes time. Allow yourself to be a work in progress and trust that each step is leading you closer to where you’re meant to be.


Your Turn: Answer the Call


The truth is, someone out there needs what only you can offer. Your unique perspective, voice, and gifts have the power to inspire, heal, or transform someone’s life. But you can’t answer that call by staying silent.


So, what’s one small step you can take today to move past fear and step into your light? Share your goals or struggles in the comments—I’d love to support you on your journey.


Here’s to a year of courage, vulnerability, and stepping boldly into the life we’re meant to live. Let’s soar higher together.



If you’d like to tackle a challenge, face a fear, or conquer a goal alongside a supportive group, join my Color Your Spirit certification class starting January 19. Together, we’ll create a space for growth, empowerment, and stepping into your light. I can’t wait to see you there!

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